Shared humanity is a concept that emphasises the commonalities and interconnectedness of all human beings. It recognises that, despite individual differences, people share universal experiences, struggles and emotions. I will often refer to this concept of “shared humanity” during therapy, however I often witness it most when out running. Which I love. So what’s the deal with this concept and more importantly how might it be of benefit to our wellbeing, enjoyment and running performance?
The shared humanity perspective promotes empathy, understanding, and compassion by highlighting the fundamental similarities that unite individuals, fostering a sense of connection and shared existence in the human journey. In various contexts, such as therapy, relationships, or challenging activities like running, embracing the concept of shared humanity can contribute to a more supportive and inclusive mindset.
Imagine for a second, you’re 80 km into an ultra marathon and it's starting to get really hard, everything hurts and you’re suffering. Anxiety, self-doubt and self-criticism might surface and all of a sudden your mental state is deteriorating fast. Perhaps you can see a competitor just up in front or even have someone chasing you down. Now, If you ask many seasoned ultra runners that have been in this situation what they thought or how they got through this period you will start to hear a common response like…
“ I was hurting badly, but I knew they were hurting just as much as I was”.
This statement, thought or internal dialogue is “shared humanity” in action. It is helpful because to suffer alone is a million times (Statistical reference not scientifically validated) more difficult than when the experience is shared, even by a competitor mid race. It's one of the reasons why running in a group, in a team environment or with a pacer is far easier than when isolated and alone. To suffer alone with anything can be incredibly painful and difficult. But when we feel a sense of connection to a fellow human or even better a supportive community our suffering and the burden of carrying it alone is lessened. We just need to remind ourselves of this from time to time, especially when suffering mid race.
The ultra-running community is fantastic for supporting a positive use of this concept. In every high-five or “keep going”, “looking good” encouragement there is an understanding and acknowledgment of what it means to be human, to do something hard and to suffer. Even if it is voluntary suffering such as when running. When we receive or provide that encouragement it's a mutually beneficial act, both individuals can gain a little mental pick me up.
Regardless of differences in experience, pace, or background, the understanding that everyone is pushing their limits and facing similar obstacles can create a strong sense of connection. This shared experience can lead to a supportive and encouraging environment during races and in the broader ultra running community. I believe this is part of what makes the ultra-running community so damn special. It's in part why we both marvel at the talented winners and if not more at the back of the pack runners overcoming insurmountable odds, often taking 2-3 times as long as the winner to finish. That is a connection to the inspiring nature of the human spirit to endure and overcome.
“If they can overcome and achieve that then perhaps I can too”.
Embracing the shared humanity concept reinforces the idea that everyone is contributing to a collective effort, whether it's through running, volunteering, or organising events. Contributing to something bigger and more meaningful than just ourselves.
If you're prone to experiencing anxiety, shame, self-doubt or self-criticism, then learning to embrace and practice a little shared humanity could be a positive first step. If it allows you to connect to things outside of and bigger than ourselves, then it might just provide a little more breathing space between our negative thoughts. Resulting in less pity parties for one :)
Ultimately, shared humanity helps normalise our experience allowing us to take a more balanced perspective to our struggles. This process promotes a positive mindset focussed on adapting, overcoming, growth, gratitude and building our resilience. Most importantly helping foster a more self-compassionate approach to our running. Because when we’re deep in the hurt locker (physically or mentally) the last thing we need is more negative internal dialogue.
I would love to hear your thoughts/feedback on this concept and if and how you have used a shared humanity perspective in managing your own struggles.
Wonderful topic and on point too Luke. I find I tend to want to volunteer, particularly at running events if I am having any anxiety or worry about running, competing… I guess you are right, given that I like to do most things alone, it makes sense that I find, I guess confidence, when I am helping others by sharing their pain at say a check point mid race with some encouragement.
Shared humanity…
Steve